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Does ‘No’ ever mean ‘Yes’? (AKA Stop it I like it).

I’ve been saving this post for a rainy day and since it’s raining shoes and bags outside (and I have no money or inclination to spend what I have) I figured, why not?

In this post the blogger talks about that age-old male conundrum of women apparently saying ‘No’ when they mean ‘Yes’ especially when it comes to sexual matters. He calls this ‘woman logic’. I don’t know how old I was when I first became aware of this so-called phenomenon but I remember it was a man who was talking about it. And it’s men that seem to believe it too. (Who is that nsi amalu n’aja loser that came up with this view anyway? Way to get a date, loser).

You see, as an Igbo woman, you’re taught that if you say no and the man continues, then it’s on. You have to do what you have to do to protect your modesty, perceived or otherwise. I’ve said on this forum how my mother gladly stuffed a suitor full of sand and talks proudly about that till this day. I, myself am a huge fan of verbal castration (tsk tsk). Works every time.

But it’s really worrying that some men have the view that women do not know their own mind. And that goes beyond just sexual matters…look, read the post and tell me what you think. Views from both genders welcome.