Dear Igbophilia readers,
Ndewo nu ndi oma m,
Kedu ka unu mere? I’m so glad that many of you have been waiting patiently for a new post since Easter. Thanks for all your messages and comments.
I’ve been up to my neck in deadlines but the the nearest one will be done soon and I will be back with more articles and stories for you to read.
In the meantime, here’s a dilemma for you to solve. This search term landed on my dashboard a few weeks ago and I was going to address it, but I thought, ‘Why not hear what other people have to say?’
Please take the time to read respond to this because someone’s life could depend on it.
What would you do if you were non-Igbo married to an Igbo man who wanted to marry someone else?
(I know hundreds of you read posts daily. The figures don’t lie. I’m asking you to please type a few words. Don’t do a browse-by. Pass it on.)
How to love Igbo things (or what you will). 
Ehen, I was wondering where you were.
I dunno what I’d do o, apart from put on my prayer warrior armour and fight it on my knees. What can you do, really? I doubt if logic would work for a man who’s decided he wants another wife.
But it’s important to know the person you’re marrying, and really seek God’s will, before you get married.
Nwunye dalu olu.
Ucheanne got it ‘i doubt if logic would work’ cause this one don pass extra marital affair na.
My own is ‘why does he want to marry someone? Because he can or what? Whatever the issue shaa, personally as new wife is moving in, I am moving out. unless you have the stomach for polygamy or he has warned you of that possibility b4 marriage, then you stay.
He is a yeye man. Enough said.
I agree with Ginger and Ucheanne, if the guy has made up his mind there’s probably not much you can do to change it. And if he let her know ahead of time that this was a possibility…well, not really much anyone can say other than if someone tells you who they are, believe them!
My question is, does he want to take on a 2nd wife or does he just want a divorce and to start over with an Igbo lady?
Lady Ngo’s question is pertinent, that would be my first question too. I am not against polygamy, and if can actually live with a second wife if we both get on.
You know I thought I was the only one who had this position…
Maybe he wants to marry because he has loved the Igbo all along. Maybe, some circumstance other then love, forced his decision to marry non-Igbo lady. I am thinking he always loved the woman from Igboland all along. Now, that you helped him establish himself, he is going back to get his lover.