You won’t believe how many times I get asked this question.
A lot of people are afraid to give race/ethnicity as part of their search criteria. In fact just this evening a friend mentioned ‘Igbo’ as her number one preference, before hastily adding “But I don’t like to say so in front of people before they say I am being tribalistic.” Which made me wonder how she was supposed to find someone if she couldn’t even vocalise her choice outside herself.
Don’t get me wrong, I have dated outside my ethnic group and even outside my race. I am an equal opportunities dater and don’t see what the big deal is – never have. But as it happens, I have ended up marrying an Igbo guy, which is why I am suddenly this go-to person for single girlfriends. And their friends. And whatever chick I happen to meet at any event I attend with my husband on this side of the world who realises that we’re both from the same ethnic group (apparently a rarity among diasporan relationships. Who knew?)
So, how do you snag an Igbo guy?
Well, you have to date him first. Don’t you?
Which is where I come in.